Being a single parent can be lonely at times. When the kids go to bed I have a few options:
- Watch TV – Am currently boycotting the soaps!
- Browse the internet and pretend I can afford to buy huge houses on the Sandbanks.
- Exercise – pfftt last thing I want to do after a long day at work!
- Stare at four walls
- Look for company in the form of online dating/flirting
You will be pleased to know I have done all of the above – not at the same time although that’s something that I could try I suppose! Recently I have ventured into the world of online dating!
When I say online dating I mean two websites- Tinder and Plenty of Fish. Why these websites? Well I can not afford to spend £££££ looking for company. If I was looking to get married again then I would possibly pay but seeing as I just want company and someone to share a good night out with I opted for the freebie websites!
Well its fair to say all walks of life are on these websites. Im going to be honest and say I prefer Tinder. Its so much fun just swiping yes or no. Completely superficial and based on looks but when a hottie swipes right (which means yes)and you get matched well, its a real confidence boost. Because of this the guys are a lot hotter on here. Plenty of Fish well lets just say – short, less attractive and cocky come to mind!
So this week after my disastrous date the other week (thanks to Plenty of Fish) I have downloaded Tinder again. Again….yes again I first went on Tinder in August last year when I felt ready to date again. Please note I was single for a year after the break down of my marriage before having my first date curtsey of Tinder! It seems men can’t or do not want to wait long at all after the end of their relationship – what is this about? It seems they either wait days, weeks or a couple of months. Men either get lonely quicker or need attention from a woman, often ending in wanting a rebound fling. Well they picked the wrong girl if that’s what they want from me!
I must admit im quite happy right and left swiping. However, honestly if I cant pronounce your name its going to be a no, also if you only upload one photo and 54 people are in the shot – you have no chance in a little right swipe form me – Its Tinder not Wheres Wally! Men also seem to think Skiing shots and Cuddling Tigers is going to get the girls – Newsflash its not!!! So when you have been matched with a guy I sit and wait – I am not contacting them – I may be an independent woman who sometimes channels my inner Beyoncé on the dance floor, but I am not t messaging you first!
The opening lines some guys use have me in stitches and other are just Hi. What the hell am I meant to reply to that? I’m polite and message back – Hey, How are you? To which a reply of Good, and you? is received. By this point I’m falling asleep with boredom! Other lines are; Your boobs look amazing – Really – you think I’m going to reply to that!!! The guy then went on to try and guess my bra size. Or You are beautiful , I hope you don’t mind me saying that. Well no I don’t mind you saying that but seeing as you’ve probably just said it to 1000 woman then its not seen as sweet or truthful, so really it was a waste of words!
One guy caught my eye and has managed to make me laugh and well I have a first date with him tonight! I hope he turns up! I have not had time to panic over this date as it has been arranged pretty last minute. I am planning on looking and feeling fabulous and am on planning on just possibly making a new drinking buddy for the night. I’m going to be a breezy Missy B!
Wish me luck!